Till death do us part, I will always be right. Aaaahhh…the age old drama.
I was recently presented with the idea of the power aura. Someone told me that one can enter a room and just by presence, intimidates. There would be many reasons why without even uttering a word, a person with powerful aura can invite discomfort and resistance. Sometimes, some in the audience feel intimidated because they yearn the power but have none. Others resist because they’d like to believe that the power is in them and that they are more deserving, but know that power eludes them. But the one with the aura, gets all the bashing but they didn’t even ask for it…seems unfair, eh?
Whatever the reason, my question begs the answer as to why would you want to be in power? Does it not get absolutely exhausting?
I watch arrogance crept into the heart of a weak leader and see him vomit sarcasm just to own his position. I witness favouritism awake unfavourably for the strong but hovers over the weak with a blanket of excuses to protect all the wrong the latter commits. Then I listen to different parties playing mediator and pouring more excuses masked as reasons to ‘help’ iron the situation. Finally, I witness the avalanche of punches and finger pointing when the opportunity arise to drown the strong based on ONE oversight. One even gave a one-liner “advise” she is completely incapable of committing in her household…amazing!
From the horrendous experience, I concluded that the strong with powerful aura is NOT ALLOWED to make mistakes or be in any state of confusion, but the weak could literally NOT DELIVER but would nonetheless raised on the highest pedestal because it makes ‘others’ feel good about themselves.
So, what is it about power that everyone MUST own even if it means garnering strength in mass to punch one light out? When rubbed the wrong way, the immediate rush of response to defend can be quite deafening. I read words of anger composed, accusations fly from every corner, unwarranted sarcasm fuelling the emotions and more jumped in the party because anger is so highly toxic but addictive. How is this “toxic” power and leadership? It feels hateful to me.
Tim Kreider said, “One reason we rush so quickly to the vulgar satisfactions of judgement, and love to revel in our righteous outrage, is that it spares us from the impotent pain of empathy, and the harder, messier work of understanding.”
What then would be the more powerful? Being right or being powerfully steadfast?
I was told by the same someone who introduced to me the term powerful aura that one with power needs to learn to harness and manage the power to be more welcoming. The immature, the afraid, and the weak will always be exactly what they are.
Post the power drama struggle I witnessed, I have concluded that the trick about power is not to struggle. Real power means to let those who have the strong desire to proof that power is in them to continue to run the drama. It’s more relaxing that way…because at the end of the day when true power walks into a room, the room WILL STAND STILL in recognition.
Struggling is unnecessary.
